As I've said before (and will continue to say), language plays a powerful role in shaping our perceptions and understanding of the world around us.
Whether your gender is cisgender binary, trans binary, or non-binary, the language used to refer to you matters, and it helps to affirm who you are as an individual.
Using language that is inclusive of all genders is essential to creating a more inclusive and respectful environment for all individuals, including those who identify as non-binary.
To help you create the most gender inclusive environments possible, todays article will explore in more depth the significance of gender-inclusive language; I'll provide some practical tips for using it in everyday communications whether they're verbal or written, and I'll highlight the positive impact it can have in supporting and affirming non-binary people.
Understanding Gender-Inclusive Language
Moving Beyond the Gender Binary
Gender-inclusive language acknowledges and respects individuals who identify outside of the traditional gender binary of male and female. It recognises that gender is a spectrum, and that identities such as non-binary, genderqueer, and gender fluid exist and are valid.
Gender-inclusive language goes beyond using only gender-neutral pronouns and includes an overall shift towards more inclusive, neutral terminology and expressions. When used consistently, it begins to challenge societal cisnormativity (the assumption that all individuals are cisgender) and heteronormativity (the assumption that all people are heterosexual.)
I recently had to book in an opticians appoint with Specsavers, and despite the fact that 'Mx' (the commonly used non-binary title) was available on their website as an option, when booking over the phone, because my voice sounds feminine, I was asked if my title was 'Miss' or 'Mrs' - this is a textbook example of cisnormativity.
For those that don't know, 'cisgender' refers to those whose gender identity aligns with the sex they were aligned at birth.
The Importance of Gender-Inclusive Language
Using gender-inclusive language is crucial for several reasons. It demonstrates respect for individuals' gender identities and affirms their sense of self. It helps create a safe and inclusive space where non-binary people feel seen and acknowledged. And it challenges gender stereotypes and promotes a more expansive understanding of gender as a whole.
Gender-inclusive language also aids in avoiding misgendering (using incorrect pronouns), preventing the potential harm it can cause to those within the transgender and non-binary community's.
By making a conscious effort to be inclusive when choosing our words, we all contribute to a culture of respect and inclusion for everyone, regardless of their gender.
Using Gender-Inclusive Language in Everyday Conversations
Pronouns Matter
Whether they hold significance to you as an individual or not, pronouns are an essential aspect of language for everyone. In recent years, there's been a growing movement towards using pronouns to reflect an individuals gender, and for many, they are an important element of their identity.
Using correct pronouns is a sign of respect for an individual's gender identity. And misgendering individuals by using the wrong pronouns can be hurtful and damaging to their mental health. Additionally, the use of incorrect pronouns can contribute to systemic oppression and discrimination against non-binary and transgender individuals.
Learning and using correct pronouns is an important step towards creating a more inclusive and accepting society. It's important to actively listen and ask individuals for their pronoun preferences.
Singular pronouns
Many think that, traditionally, English pronouns are binary, with "he" for male individuals and "she" for female individuals. However, "they", which is commonly used by those who are gender neutral or non-binary, has actually been used as a singular pronoun since 1375 - take that people who say using "they" as a singular is incorrect english!!
Other gender-neutral pronouns include "ze/hir/hirs," "xe/xem/xyr," and "per/pers
Examples:
‘Charlie works in our HR department. She delivered an informative presentation today about her most recent project.’
‘Luke works in our Recruitment department. He delivered an informative presentation today about his most recent project.’
‘Robyn works in our marketing department. They delivered an informative presentation today about their most recent project.’
‘Alice works in our Sales department. Ze delivered an informative presentation today about hir most recent project.’
‘Greg works in our Customer Service department. Xe delivered an informative presentation today about xyr most recent project.’
‘Alex works in our Development department. Per delivered an informative presentation today about per most recent project.’
Multiple pronouns
For many reasons, some people may wish to use more than one set of pronouns to refer to themselves.
A gender non-conforming person, for example, may feel equally comfortable with they/them, he/him and she/her pronouns. Or, if a trans and gender non-conforming person has not yet come out to a specific person/s, they may use different pronouns so in different situations, for example at work vs at home.
If someone you're communicating with does use more than one set of pronouns, you can ask them what they would prefer you to use. They may prefer you use all of them interchangeably, or keep to one set.
Example
‘Reese has exceeded their targets this year. She plans to apply for a promotion soon.’
Not using pronouns
Some people don't use pronouns at all, and so the correct way to refer to them is by using their name only.
Example
Jay is taking the minutes for Jay’s next meeting’.
Using a persons name is also a way to refer to someone if you're unsure of their pronouns. However, if you do know someones pronouns, it's best to use them.
Neopronouns
Neopronouns are used by those who refer to themselves without the context of gender. While these newer pronouns are less common, it is important to respect every individuals right to use them if they choose to.
Some examples are xe/xir or ze/zir, both pronounced zee and ze-er (rhymes with ‘here’). Some people may use a noun as a pronoun instead.
Example:
‘Raj has been successful in xir interview. Xe starts xir new job on Monday.’
Global usage
Some languages may not have an established gender-neutral pronoun. In this case, you should simply ask the person how they would like to be referred to. Words used as gender neutral pronouns may exist, but not be common in use.
Some Welsh speakers, for example, may use the word ‘nhw’ as a gender-neutral pronoun. You should always seek to educate yourself on the language of the communities you are working with.
Allyship
Pronouns can be used to role model trans and gender non-confirming allyship. Regardless of your pronouns, consider introducing yourself with your name and pronouns at the start of meetings. In a group setting, ask attendees to introduce themselves with names and pronouns if they feel comfortable doing so. Starting meetings this way can allow trans and gender non-confirming colleagues to introduce themselves without feeling pressured to bring up the use of pronouns first.
This step may also help start conversations about how to use pronouns and why they matter. Encouraging other colleagues to do the same can help create a more inclusive environment at work.
Consider adding your pronouns to your email signature by writing, for example, ‘she/her’ next to your name. You may have also seen some social media accounts, such as LinkedIn, include the ability to add pronouns, which you should do if you feel comfortable to do so. This signifies your commitment to inclusion, and helps to prevent clients, customers, or employees from being referred to incorrectly.
If you get someones pronouns wrong and you catch yourself out, just correct yourself, apologise, and move on - theres no need for a fuss!
Gender-Neutral Language
This is an easy one...In everyday conversations, try and opt for gender-neutral language whenever possible.
This means that instead of using gendered terms like "guys" or "ladies," use inclusive alternatives like "folks," "everyone," or "people." This ensures that individuals of all genders feel included and not excluded or misgendered.
Fun fact, my team at work have have replaced the term 'guys' with 'geese' to keep things gender neutral! As a result, our conversations look a little like this:
"Hey Geese, does anyone know where this is on the shared drive?"
"Have a great weekend, Geese!"
"How are you today, Goose?"
"Bye Geese!"
It's my absolute favourite thing!
Avoid Assumptions
Be mindful of making assumptions based on someone's appearance or name.
This should really be common sense, but not all individuals' gender identities align with traditional gender norms. So, avoid asking invasive questions about their personal lives, and DO NOT ask any questions about a persons body.
A non-binary person could be at any point in their gender journey, and could be incredibly conscious about the way they look. I know that's how I feel right now while I'm still waiting for gender affirmation surgery. Just respect their self-identified gender and focus on getting to know them as individuals rather than as a novelty.
Using Gender-Inclusive Language in Written Communication
Pronouns in Email Signatures and Bios
This is another super easy one which I'm please to say that a lot of businesses and social media users are doing!
Where you can, include your pronouns in email signatures, social media bios, and professional profiles to create a welcoming environment for others to share their pronouns as well.
If you're cisgender, actively sharing your she/her or he/him pronouns normalises the inclusion of pronouns and reduces the burden on non-binary individuals to disclose their pronouns first. Pronouns are important, we've already established that, but it doesn't mean non-binary people want to have to say that all the time.
Neutral Salutations and Greetings
This is a little big like using "geese" instead of "guys"...
When addressing a group or an individual in written communication, choose neutral salutations such as "Dear colleagues," "Hello team," or "Greetings."
Avoid gender-specific greetings like "Dear Sir/Madam" or "Ladies and gentlemen," as they exclude non-binary individuals and reinforce the gender binary.
Gender-Inclusive Terminology in the Workplace
Businesses.... Make an effort to review your vocabulary and replace gendered terms with gender-inclusive alternatives! PLEASE!
This means, instead of using "businessman" or "salesman," use "businessperson" or "sales representative." Similarly, replace "stewardess" with "flight attendant" and "fireman" with "firefighter."
These changes promote inclusivity and challenge traditional gender roles.
The Impact of Gender-Inclusive Language
Fostering Inclusivity and Respect
Using gender-inclusive language sends a powerful message of acceptance and respect. It creates an environment where non-binary individuals feel valued, validated, and included. It helps build a culture that celebrates gender diversity and affirms everyone's right to express their gender identity authentically.
Challenging Gender Stereotypes
Gender-inclusive language challenges the limitations and stereotypes associated with traditional gender norms.
By moving beyond gendered language, we break down barriers and encourage a more expansive understanding of gender, promoting equality and empowerment for everyone whether binary or non-binary.
Enhancing Communication and Connection
Using gender-inclusive language fosters open and effective communication. It encourages individuals to express themselves without fear of judgment or exclusion. By creating a safe space through language, we facilitate deeper connections, understanding, and collaboration among diverse individuals.
Gender-inclusive language is a powerful tool for creating an inclusive and respectful environment for all individuals, particularly those who identify as non-binary. By understanding the significance of gender-inclusive language and implementing practical tips in everyday conversations and written communication, we can contribute to a more inclusive society. Let's challenge the limitations of the gender binary, promote inclusivity, and affirm the identities of all individuals through the power of our words.
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